Brett Bender
Family Law Attorney

Oregon / Washington

About Brett Bender

"Brett, I hope you realize how very valuable your work is to those of us who need, reluctantly, your expertise. I also want to express how fortunate I feel to have found you to represent me and I would not hesitate to recommend you to a friend." 
K.S. - Portland

“I had faith in you and you did everything right.  Thank you for breaking the cycle of losses. And for all your time, patience and hard work!” 
S. T. - Vancouver


I have been a Portland Family Law attorney since 1988 and am licensed to represent clients in both Oregon and Washington. My primary practice areas relate to Family Law which can be an extremely emotional, confusing, hurtful and damaging experience for each family member - but it does not have to be.  It is important to me to ensure that my clients not only feel confident that I understand what is important to them in their case but that they also understand and appreciate the applicable law and legal procedures. That understanding and confidence is crucial in the attorney-client relationship and is necessary for the client to make informed decisions about how they would prefer to proceed and the potential emotional and financial costs and time associated with the process.

Most importantly, I strive to ensure that my clients develop reasonable expectations regarding potential case outcomes and to encourage and facilitate fair and equitable negotiated settlements.

I approach each case with an eye toward settlement while at the same time preparing for trial. This helps prevent surprises and supports a strong negotiating position as the case moves forward. When a court appearance is called for I have the experience, knowledge and seasoned ability to prepare, manage, and effectively present the case to the court, whether it involves complex asset and liability issues, business valuation, custody and parenting time, child or spousal support or any combination of these matters.

Perhaps the most important additional qualities I provide to my clients are an assertiveness tempered by common sense and an appropriate sense of humor, which may sound odd in these circumstances but can be a saving grace when things get tough.


I am married and have two sons, ages 24 and 20. I stay fit mostly by road and mountain biking and snow skiing (member of the Mt. Hood Ski Patrol) and just getting outside as much as I can. My wife and I travel, I read quite a bit and I entertain myself by playing the drums in a rock band. I occasionally write songs and am a recorded songwriter.

BS Journalism, University of Oregon
JD, Lewis and Clark Law School, Member:  Cornelius Honor Society. 



  • Divorce or Legal Separation
  • Child Custody
  • Child Support
  • Spousal Support
  • Domestic Violence
  • Restraining Orders


833 SW 11th Avenue
Suite 612
Portland, OR 97205

T: 971-373-8491
F: 503-270-5281

Please give me your name, email address and a brief description of your situation and I will contact you to schedule a consultation.   

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Family Law Practice Areas

  • Divorce / Legal Separation
  • Child Custody
  • Parenting Time
  • Child Support
  • Property / Asset Division
  • Debt / Liability Division
  • Spousal Support
  • Modification (Custody, Parenting Time, Support)
  • Termination of Spousal Support
  • Post Secondary (College) Support
  • Third-Party Custody (Grandparent or Parent/Child Relationship)
  • Third-Party Visitation (Oregon)
  • Domestic Violence / Restraining Orders

Contact Brett

833 SW 11th Avenue. STE 612
Portland, OR 97205
T: 971-373-8491
F: 503-270-5281

Name *